Friday, December 3, 2010


Well it's official winter is here.  We had snow on Thanksgiving and right now it's 28 degrees here in the miserable Midwest.  I'm cold!  I hope everyone had a wonderful Thanksgiving!  We had a great day.  My mom's side of the family all met at my Aunt and Uncles house around 12.  Our first holiday without gramps was a little rough but we made it of course.  It was great to hang out with everyone all day.  I really <3 my family.

Marcus is going through a clothing/diaper's are optional phase.  It sucks!  Several times now I have gone to bed only to find him a) completely butt naked, b) no clothes but diaper still on, or c) playing in his own feces that is a now all over the place.  Toddlers are nasty!!!!!  I think  for Christmas I'm going to buy him one of those training seats that sits on the big toilet.  He has a real nice potty chair that makes noises, but honestly I think he's scared of it.  He knows when he has to pee/poop and will tell us but will not sit on the potty. *sigh*

Jaylin is doing great!  Counting down the days til Christmas and driving herself nuts trying to guess what her already wrapped gifts are.  Bhahaha I'm an evil mama.

Have a great day!

Monday, November 22, 2010

I hate this time of the year

Marcus is sick, AGAIN!  I swear it's been like a never ending battle the last 2 months.  Poor thing barely gets a week or two to re-coup before he is sick again.  The runny nose hasn't stopped in weeks, and his cough came back again yesterday.  We were up half the dang night coughing.  Some friends told me about giving him honey before bed to help with the coughing, so I'm gonna give that a try tonight.  Here's hoping!

Other then that the weekend was pretty uneventful, except I started my Christmas shopping and I'm about half way done.  WOOHOO!  Thursday we had conference with Jay's teacher and received her report card.  She did wonderful all of her grades were in the mid-upper 90's except for one, she got a 78% in social studies.  She doesn't care much for history, but no doubt she will be bringing it up.  I'm a very proud mama!

Wednesday, November 17, 2010

Wedding plans

Oh that's right after 11 years together Orlando and I are tying the knot.  He "finally" proposed to me back in February.  I started right away looking into planning, setting a date, picking colors, choosing MOH and bridesmaids.  It's been 9 months since he put a ring on it and I have done nothing.  We still don't have a date, I kinda have colors and flowers picked out, no venue, I haven't been dress shopping, NADA!  Looks like he'll get that long engagement he wanted.  LOL

So if you have any wedding tips I would love to hear them, this will be a big DIY wedding since we are not very financially blessed.  I'm going with some shade of blue for the colors, and I love love love Calla Lilies.  I also want a spring May/June wedding.  I had set a date for this May but it's my little sisters high school graduation and she was unsure (and still is) of graduation date.  I would hate to have scheduled my wedding for the same weekend as her graduation.

Vanilla latte, and a pumpkin pie latte

A half a pot of regular coffee, a venti vanilla latte, then 2 hours later a tall pumpkin pie latte this is what it has taken to wake me up today.  The kids are great!  M is finally getting over his cold, coughing is no longer leading to vomiting and no sleep, and he is eating again!  Of course now Jay has a runny nose, and my throat feels like crap.  Such is life.  Tomorrow is a half day for Jay and our conference with her teacher is at 3.  Jaylin is a very smart little girl (and no I'm not just saying that because I'm her mom), she always has amazing grades and her teachers all love her so I'm excited as always for her conference.  Friday she is off school, so she will be spending the day with her bff, then when I get off work both girls will stay at my house.  Her bff's mom is going out and I'm keeping her daughter.  Fun times, I've always enjoyed having kids over.

Tuesday, November 16, 2010

A different post

The kids are fine and doing nothing different so I thought maybe a different kind of post was in order today.  Let's talk about parenting.  Parenting by far is one of the hardest jobs you will ever come across.  Every decision we make for or with our kids has an impact on their lives.  From breastfeeding/formula feeding, cloth diapers/disposable diapers, to vaccinate or not, to circumcise or not, to co-sleep or not, to let them cry it out or not, everything we do from day 1 of their little lives has an impact.  Now everyone has their own personal opinions on all the things I mentioned above, and that's ok, that is exactly what makes the world go round.  All I ask of every parent in this world is to take the time and make an effort to know exactly why you are making the decision you are.  Hopefully you'll have a better answer then because so and so did it and their kid is fine. :-)

My parenting: When I had Jaylin I was 19 years old.  I co-slept a little for the first month or so, did not breastfeed, and didn't sleep train til close to 9 months and it was 1 night.  She was fully vaccinated from day 1, and I honestly never read a book about parenting in my life.  I was 28 when I had Marcus.  Lots of time, maturing and growing up had taken place between kid 1 and kid 2.  I am a completely different mother now then I was even 3 years ago.  I have made it my mission in life to be educated about things like vaccines, and food preservatives.  I guess it helps that M is an extremely "difficult different" child then Jay was.  Different in a good way of course.  M was breastfeed for about 7 weeks, co-slept for a good while, I wear him even now at 30lbs, and I would love to have some cloth diapers, but being as he is over 2 it would be stupid to buy some now.  When you know better, hopefully you do better.  More then likely a 3rd child is not in the cards for myself and I'm at peace with that.  However if I do have a 3rd child I can tell you a few things right now.  I will have a med free natural labor (maybe even at home), that child will not be circumcised or vaccinated (at least for a long time if at all) I will make it a goal to make sure that child is breastfeed for at least a year, and I will for sure be purchasing some cute little cloth diapers.  In fact I have a friend who was a store selling cloth diapers, slings, and much more.  If you don't know about Cloth and Carry check it out here.  

Monday, November 15, 2010

Weekend in review

Happy Monday!  I loathe Monday's!!!!!!  So Friday I get a phone call around 11am from my babysitter telling me M is pretty sick.  Can't breath, isn't eating, coughing constantly and it's making him vomit.  I left work to go get him and take him home.  The pedi's office told me I could give him some Mucinex for all the coughing/drainage.

So you know we still don't have a car, since some *&&%%*&* stole ours several months ago.  I hoped on the bus to go to Jay's school to borrow my friends car to get M from the sitters.  There isn't a bus close to my sitters house and I wasn't about to pay $30 for a cab, or walk with a sick kid.  So my friend was letting me borrow her car, she's been my lifesaver.  Anyway I get to school grab her keys and as I am walking away from the building I hear someone say Ma'am.  I turn around and it's one of the ladies from the office that I know pretty well.  I greeted her and she walked up beside me and said "Be careful walking to your car, we are going on lockdown, so hurry up and just be careful!"  I was like WTF?  I asked her what was going on and she just said again, walk quick and be careful!  As I was walking down to the car I passed a class of kids, walking back inside with their teacher.  As I passed them another teacher yelled outside to her that the school was on lockdown and there was an intruder alert.  The kids starting running inside.  I get in the car and pull off to get M.  I am FREAKING.THE.HELL.OUT!  I just left my baby girl and the school possibly had an intruder.  I just wanted my baby.  But at that point they weren't letting anyone in or out and I was stuck because I had to get my sick little boy and I didn't want to leave my baby girl.  UGH.  Anyway I get M and while I was at the sitters a friend from school called me to let me know that there was an attempted abduction from the playground but from what they knew it was a family issue.  Ok that calmed me a little bit but not a lot.  I knew Jay wasn't on the playground, but what if this crazy guy was roaming the halls with a gun or something.  People are crazy!!!!  My friend kept me updated.  They ended up being on complete lockdown for about 20 minutes, they stayed on lockdown for 90 minutes, but it wasn't a complete hiding lockdown the whole time, just no one in, no one out.  When I picked Jay up from school I found out that the whole story of the attempted abduction was a lie brought about by a 8th grader who got caught skipping school.  Thankfully the kids where never in any danger.  But I would love to get my hands on this 8th grader, the whole school for the first 20 minutes of lockdown was hiding in their classrooms.  HIDING!  My daughter was terrified as she hide under the coat rack in the back of her room for 20 minutes.  GRRRR

Saturday and Sunday went about the same, cleaning, cooking, and chilling.  We went no where and did nothing outside.  It was cold and dreary.  M is still a bit sick, runny nose, cough, and not eating much.  Here's hoping for a good week for all of us.

Friday, November 12, 2010


TGIF!!!!! I love Friday's and payday Friday's are even better! Let's play catch up for a minute.
Halloween was fabulous! M was a monkey and Jay was prom queen. OMGosh! I ended up not using one of my dresses. My mom found a bridesmaid dress at the second hand store in her town for $5, and it was a womens size 4. All I had to do was pin the straps and clip the back a little and it fit like a glove. The both looked so cute and had an absolute blast! I had an MRI last week to see what is going on with all my back pain. Turns out I have 2 bugling discs. FUN! No wonder I've been in so much pain. Plan will be physical therapy and possibly steroid injections. Jay's conference is next week not this week. M is sick, again! We didn't get much sleep last night. Poor little man has so much congestion and mucous that he can't breath. Then he starts coughing and vomits up all this phlegm ewwwww. LOL

Not much in the way of plans for the weekend. It's supposed to get chilly this weekend and rainy. Grocery store today, most likely nothing all weekend. It's ok I enjoy "boring" weekends sometimes. I hope you all have a great Friday and blessed weekend!

Thursday, November 11, 2010

Beautiful Weather

We have been having wonderful weather this week here in the miserable mid-west. LOL High temps in the mid 70's in November is a blessing around here. But alas all good things must come to an end (i don't understand that really, WHY must good things come to an end?) this weekend the temps will be crashing back to "normal" for the miserable mid-west.

Yesterday I picked Jay and her friend up from school and we spent about 3 hours at the park. We all had a lot of fun. One of my girlfriends brought her 10yo daughter up (the girls are friends with her as well) and the 3 of them were off and playing all afternoon. The other mom and I got to sit and chat about anything/everything and nothing at all for hours. I don't get much time out with other adults so it was a bit refreshing. We split up after a few hours and the girls and I went to get M from the sitters. We then took him to a different park and let him run and play for about 45 minutes. Before taking Jay's friend to her mom.

Then it was a normal evening at home. Dinner, homework, baths, then bed. I was exhausted, all that fresh air is exhausting. However about 6pm my friend called to tell me her daughter who I watched all day starting vomiting and that continued all night. I sure hope we don't come down with it.

Hope you all have a great Thursday!

Wednesday, November 10, 2010

Wonderful Wednesday

Today is wonderful for several reason. I'm only working a half day WOOHOO and it's 76 degree's outside. One of the last "nice" days left before the dreary cold creeps in. So Jay has a half day at school and I am leaving work soon to get her, take her and her friend to the park. Then when M gets up from his nap at the sitters we will go get him and go back to the park with him.

He loves loves loves the park. The kids and I stopped by one yesterday on our way home for about 20 minutes, but then we had to leave because it was getting dark. He had the biggest meltdown ever when it was time to go. Poor little munchkin just wants to play "side, side mommy". :-)

Hope your Wednesday is just as wonderful as mine is going to be.

Tuesday, November 9, 2010

Tuesday Blues

2 days ago was the end of Daylight Savings time. I hate hate hate this time of the year. It's dark when I leave work, and it's getting colder. Winter in the midwest is never fun. You would think after um 30 years I would be used to it, but no I dread it every year. M is a little thrown off by the time change and has been getting up at 5am. Not super early for me since I'm getting up at 5:30 to get ready for work anyway. However it is so nice to have a little quiet time before the kids get up and now I don't have that.

Other then that nothing new really. M pottied on the potty a few times but not much since then. We have our parent-teacher conference with Jay's teacher this week. Not worried about that at all, her teacher absolutely adores her.

Monday, October 11, 2010

3 months ago

Ok well this post will be dedicated to Ray my grandfather. Grandpa had a pretty complicated medical history. Mainly reoccuring blood clots, and most recently within the last 5 years diabetes, heart problems and unexplained weight loss. November 2008 he was hospitalized for shortness of breath, we also found out at that time that he had a-fib meaning his heart wasn't beating correctly. Since then he was admitted to the hopsital for the same issue every couple of months. Back in May he was admitted again for shortness of breath and his irregular heartbeat. See the problem is that he is on medication for his blood clotting disorder and the medication they put him on for his heart wasn't working. They couldn't really put him on anything else, because of his other meds. In May they did a procedure to look closely at his heart blockage/valves. See we've known about his heart problems for 2 years now and for those whole 2 years we have been told heart surgery was NOT an option . He would not be able to have surgery because of all his other medical issues. This May when they looked at his heart they decided that it was time. He HAD to have heart surgery! It was estimated that he had 80% blockage of his main artery. Really he was a heart attack waiting to happen at this point.

So the heart surgery was scheduled for June 11th. He was supposed to have bypass to clear the blockage and a pericardectomy. The pericardiem is the outside lining of your heart and his was thick and therefore it was constricting his heart. We were all warned that this was going to be a tricky situation. There was no doubt that he would make it through surgery. But due to his medical history there was concern about his recovery. We were warned of all the possible side effects he could endure. So June 11th comes and he goes in for surgery around 11am. Around 4pm we find out that he is done. They were able to do the pericardectomy but not the bypass. They reassured us that just doing the pericardectomy was good because the blockage in his heart wasn't nearly as bad as previously thought.

He spent the weekend after surgery in the ICU but did fabulous! He was taken off the ventilator about 6 hours after he came out of surgery and by the evening of Saturday (24 hours out of surgery) he was walking the halls. Monday afternoon he was transfered to a regular floor with only 2 chest tube drains.

The next 3 weeks were a roller coaster. He made a trip back to the ICU for 3 days because apparently they gave him WAY to much new heart medication and his heart rate kept dropping dangerously low. Think the low 30's. 1 week after surgery he was able to have 1 of his chest tubes removed, and he did great with that. You see the chest tube is inserted into your lung, and it helps to drain fluid from your lungs and keep your lung inflated. The week after the 1st tube was removed it was all about him walking the halls and trying to get that 2nd chest tube out. Every dang time they would turn the suction down for his chest tube he would have problems breathing, meaning his lung would collapse. The lung dr came around daily and finally it was discussed that we would probably have to do surgery again, this time on his lung.

See grandpa's surgery was done at the hospital I work at. Which ended up being a HUGE blessing. I got to spend a little time every single day with my grandparents. Time that now I am incredibly grateful for. I remember sitting with him on Friday July 2nd and we talked about how Sunday was the 4th and since he was still stuck in the hospital he was really looking forward to going up to the 17th floor and watching the fireworks. He talked about that a lot.

On the morning of July 4th I received a text from my mother at 6am. Telling all of us that grandpa had a bad night and had just been sent back to the ICU. My mom called me to let me know around 12 that she was on her way up (she lives 2 hours away) because he was doing really bad. So I got M (Jay was at a 4th fair with her bff) ready and we all went up to the hospital together around 2pm. When we got there most of my very HUGE family was there already. Mom and I went back into the ICU to see grandpa and grandma. He was awake and alert, but struggling so hard to breath. They had a face mask on him with oxygen but he was still gasping for air. Honestly IMO he should have been ventilated right then, but that comes later. We all hung out at the hospital for hours that day waiting to see what was going on. Around 8pm I started getting M ready to leave and go home. When all of a sudden one of my Aunts came running out of the ICU they had decided to ventilate him. So I passed M off to my sister and went back there with my mom.

I ended up taking M home about an hour later and leaving him with dh. I went back up to the hospital to camp out for the night. Along with many many other people. Around midnight grandma told one of my Aunts, my sister and I that the Dr's had said grandpa was in Septic Shock. I have worked in healthcare for 12 years now, and Sepsis or Septic Shock is NOT something you want to hear about one of your family members having. It basically means that you have infection in your whole body, and your body is in shock from it. The odds of surviving are 50/50.

The week was long and horrible. It was like good day then a bad day. Up and down, such a roller coaster. One day they would wean him off his 185674937309 drips and turn down the ventilator setting then the next day they would have to turn everything back up. By Wednesday they had alot of the meds off him and his vent settings way down. He wasn't responding at all, so now we were worried about a possible brain bleed. I'm telling you it was a week from hell. Turns out he didn't have a brain bleed. But Thursday evening he did throw a blood clot. Really Hell! Friday afternoon one of my Aunt's and I finally got grandma to leave the floor and go down to the cafeteria for lunch. Of course right after we eat my other Aunt, who was still upstairs, called and told us to get back now. We go up to find out that his Co2 levels were dangerously high, and his nurse for the day was very concerned. So concerned that she thought we should call family up. So we called all the family back up to the hospital. I found a sitter for the kids and stayed all evening. I had stayed all night Thursday night and was running on only 3 maybe hours of sleep. Friday was rough. My mom came back up and he was somewhat stable when I finally left around 10pm friday night. I stayed home because I desperately needed some sleep but I felt horrible for that.

Anyway things did not get better and Saturday afternoon we had to have a meeting with all his Dr's. His blood pressure was low and he was back on all the medication we had previously weaned him off of. Not only that but he was at the highest possible doses of everything, and still had a low blood pressure. At that point the decision was made to make him a DNR. We weren't turning off any of his medications or ventilator, but if he happened to stop breathing we weren't going to try and bring him back. It was explained to us that his body was shutting down. His kidney's were failing, his liver wasn't functioning properly, and basically he was done. If we did code him it wouldn't do any good.

You see my grandfather was the only man that has been in my life and apart of my life since the day I was born. As a child I used to spend everyday before and after school at my grandparents. They are like a second set of parents for me. I always always knew they would be there for me, and that month grandpa was here in the hospital we just got closer.

Saturday evening/night we all took turns going in the room with grandma and saying our goodbyes. By far the hardest thing I have ever had to do. I kept it together while I was in there, but as soon as I kissed his forhead and walked out of the room I broke down. I completely lost it. Thankfully my family left me alone and let me go. I needed some time alone, so I walked outside to the park across the street and bawled like a baby for a long time. I don't know how long I was gone.

Saturday night we all stayed, I'm talking 20 people at all times, in the waiting room. Sunday came and with his blood pressure still holding in the low 70/40's we knew it was going to happen soon. We made plans to get his mother and his sister here from 3 states away. Then all day we prayed they would make it before he passed. My dad left around 930pm to go pick Granny and Aunt D up. At 1015 some of us went downstairs to help get Granny in a wheelchair and upstairs. About 7 minutes later we got the phone call to get back up there NOW. We all ran through the hallways and tried to get there as fast as we could. When we got off the elevator and saw that there was no one in the waiting room, without a doubt we knew he was gone.

We all went back into the ICU and sat in his room with him for a little bit just crying. You see my family has had it's share of deaths, but this was the first time it was someone so close to us and it was unexpected. Sure those last couple of days we expected it but it's not like my 88yo Great Grandfather who had no quality of life for 6 months before his death. That was much more understood.

My grandparents had just celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary 3 months prior to his death. Grandpa Ray was 67 years old, and passed exactly 1 month after his surgery.

The funeral was hard, watching my grandmother throw herself on his casket at the cemetary was hard. This whole things sucks. Coming back to work after his death had me in a panic attack. I had just spent a month with my family here at work with me, and now I'm walking into the building knowing that the last time I was here I had to say goodbye forever to him. Seeing nurses, tech's and the dr's that took care of him in the hall was hard.

In the end it is what it is and we are all doing our best to pick up the pieces and move on. It's been 3 months today and it seems like just yesterday. The pain feels like it just happened yesterday.

Raymond Leslie you will forever be in my thoughts and in my heart. One day we will meet again. I love you grandpa. <3

Friday, October 1, 2010

Hello again!

Well I really suck at this blogging thing. I'm jumping back in (just like I never left lol)!! The summer was crazy busy, and kinda horrible. We unfortunately had a death in the family, one that was pretty unexpected. I'm not going to get into that now, it'll have to be another long-winded post some other time. How about some updates on the kids?

Jay had a good summer. She got to spend some time at her ma-ma's house, and while she unfortunately (due to the death) did not get to participate in the dance performance she did get to go to the dance camp. She enjoyed that and has shown me her dance 1047854823027 times. :-)
School started for her mid-August, 5th grade this year. So far she seems to really be liking it, they rotate classes just like BIG kids. haha Homework is crazy this year and we've been pretty busy every night. The school is putting on a school wide Annie musical. She auditioned and was selected to be in the chorus and dancing. She is super excited since she loves to dance! She has decided to be a Pageant girl for Halloween so I'm trying to put that together for her.

M is my monkey man. His language skills have exploded and that makes me one happy mommy. He turned 2 last month, how in the heck did that happen? He's such a big boy! He constantly is repeating everything I say all day long. But yet when he needs/wants something he grunts, points, and screams. LOL His sleep has gotten somewhat better, and still sometimes the same. Idk for now I'm just going to be happy with the good nights. We have not and will not be potty training just yet. He knows what the potty is, and sometimes he will sit on it. But if he doesn't want to sit on it, then he isn't going to. I ask him all the time if he wants to sit on the potty and consistently the answer is NOOOOOO. No need to push anything. He is counting to 10, can name all his body parts, knows most of his colors, and we are working on the ABC's and shapes. He's such a smart boy. I found him the cutest little monkey Halloween costume this year. His 2 year check up with the pediatrician is on the 14th, and he has an appt with the allergist for an Egg challenge on the 20th. Honestly mommy did her own Egg challenge at home, and he had absolutely no reactions so I'm cancelling that appt. He had his Soy challenge in August and didn't have any reactions. YAY!!! Now thankfully his food allergies have been narrowed down to Dairy, Tree Nuts, Peanuts, and Strawberries!

As for me, well as I touched on early we had an unexpected death in the family mid-summer and really I've been pretty depressed lately. Well honestly I was before the death things just keep getting worse. I'm also been having really bad back pains, and for the last 2 weeks everyone in the house has been fighting off sinus/allergy crap. I fired my primary doctor for refusing to help me out with my back pain, and not getting me an appt to see her for 4 weeks. What kind of crap is that? Your patient calls you complaining of horrible pain that is constant and keeping them from sleep and you can't get them an appt for 4 weeks. No thanks! I am paying YOU and if you can't meet my needs (aka make an appt for sooner then 4 weeks) then I can and will find someone who can help me. She did give me a referral to a Orthopedic dr, but that appt isn't until Oct 28th.

Wednesday, June 23, 2010

Teething sucks

M has been getting a set of molars for a good month now. But within the last week I've noticed his canines are right below the surface. Poor thing is uncomfortable and crabby. No one has had a full nights sleep in about a month now and we are all starting to get mean. LOL Please please let these teeth break through soon. I honestly don't know how much more any of us can handle.

Jay is still at ma-ma's house but should be home in the next couple of days. Next Wednesday Donna, Angel, Jay and I are going to see Eclipse! YAY!!!!!!! Yes it's pathetic but we are die hard Twilight fans.

Monday, June 21, 2010

Summer Time!

Summer has finally arrived, it's been made apparent by the 100* temp's everyday. Spring/Summer are really my favorite seasons but seriously 100* with 80% humidity! Not cool, not cool!! It's been really crazy around here lately. My grandfather had bypass 10 days ago and recovery has been really rough on him. Which has meant lots of family time in the hospital waiting rooms. It's unfortunate that he is still in the hospital and will be at least for 3-4 more days, but it is absolutely amazing to me to walk into a waiting room and see 10-12 of my family members there constantly sitting with grandma, or rotating in and out of his room. I love my family!!!!

M is doing really well. We went to Erin's (my cousin) graduation party in the park a couple weekends ago. I was nervous nelly the whole time because there were trays of peanuts on every table. M did NOT get a hold of any peanuts, THANK you GOD, but the poor thing did fall in the grass and immediately break out all over his back. A trip to walmart for benadryl cream was in order. The benadryl cream worked great and FAST! He is loving the warm temp's and being outside. Poor little man is getting about 6 teeth atm. :-( He started saying Stick this weekend and if you use your imagination I bet you can figure out what it sound like. I'll give you a hint, rhymes with stick but begins with a D. Thankfully he only said it a small handful of times.

Jay is loving the fact that school is out. She spent several days over at her bff's house last week swimming away. Yesterday was fathers day and we spent the afternoon/evening with Ma-ma, pa-pa, Kay and Brian. Needless to say somehow I lost my daughter for the week to her ma-ma's house. She will have a blast hanging out with her cool older aunt Kay and all of Kay's friends this week. My daughter hanging out with a bunch of 17yo's does worry me though. LOL She is signed up to do a 2 week dance class down at ma-ma's. She did it last year too, they practice for 2 weeks then they dance at the fair in town. Did I mention that my mom lives in a town with only 900 people? Kay and her gf's coach the girls and do a dance as well. It's really fun to see it, last year I was unable to go to the fair so my mom recorded it. I'm praying I can make it this year.

Wednesday, May 26, 2010

Totally unrelated post

Being supportive is hard when you don't agree with what you are supposed to be supporting. I have a really hard time with doing this. How am I supposed to cheer you on and wish great things for you, when I believe your doing the wrong thing? I just can't bring myself to this place. So instead I say nothing, you know that old adage that our mom's all taught us "if you don't have something nice to say then say nothing" that's what I do and THAT get's me into trouble as well.

Whatever it's your life I really could care less what you do, but don't expect me to be all happy for you. Sometimes whether you realize it or not the best support is the support you don't get. :-)

Tuesday, May 25, 2010

Food allergies

Living with a child with many food allergies sucks. We have now had 5 months to adjust and make sure any "bad" food is always out of his reach. However taking him to someone else's house is a nightmare. The first place I go to when I walk in someone's house is the kitchen to make sure there isn't any "bad" food in his reach. It's always a constant worry when he isn't with me or when we go somewhere new. The holidays are going to be a NIGHTMARE. lol

I get really upset about it sometimes. I shouldn't M is a healthy child and I remind myself of that often. But at the same time I just wish I didn't have to constantly worry about him eating something that could potentially harm him. Dairy and Nuts are my big fears. He has been dairy free for 4 months now, and not to long ago I gave him a little bit of a dairy product just to see. Yea that didn't work so well, poor thing had green stools for 3 days afterwards. Nuts are much more of a concern. We have 2 epi-pens that are with us/him constantly, but the thought of EVER needing to use that scares the crap outta me.

Thankfully my family and friends are wonderful, and just as watchful over him as I him. Even better is his sister. Jay is an amazing big sister and she reads every label of everything she eats to see if M can have some. I really am blessed.

Monday, May 24, 2010

May is National Asthma & Allergy awareness month

Here are a few facts regarding food allergies:
􀂃 Peanut allergy doubled in children over a five-year period (1997-2002).
􀂃 Research suggests that food-related anaphylaxis might be underdiagnosed.
􀂃 An increasing number of school students and staff have diagnosed life-threatening allergies.
􀂃 A 2007 study has shown that milk allergy may persist longer in life than previously thought. Of 800
children with milk allergy, only 19 percent had outgrown their allergy by age 4, and only 79 percent had
outgrown it by age 16.
􀂃 More than 12 million Americans have food allergies. That’s one in 25, or 4 percent of the population.
􀂃 The incidence of food allergy is highest in young children – one in 17 among those under age 3.
􀂃 About 3 million children in the U.S. have food allergies.
􀂃 The number of emergency room visits due to food-induced anaphylaxis in the US ranges from 50,000 to 125,000, depending on the source.
􀂃 Eight foods account for 90 percent of all food-allergic reactions in the U.S.: milk, eggs, peanuts, tree nuts
(e.g., walnuts, almonds, cashews, pistachios, pecans), wheat, soy, fish, and shellfish.

􀂃 There is no cure for food allergies. Strict avoidance of food allergens and early recognition and management of allergic reactions to food are important measures to prevent serious health consequences.
􀂃 Even trace amounts of a food allergen can cause a reaction.
􀂃 Food allergies are life-altering for everyone involved and require constant vigilance.

Here are a few asthma facts:
• About 23 million people, including almost 7 million children, have asthma.
• Asthma prevalence is higher among families with lower incomes.
• 12 million people report having an asthma attack in the past year.
• Asthma accounts for nearly 17 million physician office and hospital visits, 4 and nearly 2 million emergency department visits each year.
• Asthma is one of the most common serious chronic diseases of childhood.
• Asthma is the third-ranking cause of hospitalization among children under 15.
• Asthma in children is the cause of seven million physician visits and nearly 200,000 hospitalizations.
• An average of one out of every 10 school-aged child has asthma.
• 13 million school days are missed each year due to asthma.

Our Asthma and Food allergy story

These 2 topics are near and dear to my heart since I only have a few days left in May I need to blog blog blog. For those of you who don't know M has Intermittent Asthma and ton's of allergies. Here's a little run down of his history:

At 3 months M had RSV for which he required the use of an inhaler. Now anytime he gets sick he tends to have some wheezing. The only time we really have any asthma issues is when he has a cold. That is why he was diagnosed with intermittent asthma.

At 12 months we started feeding him peanut butter and jelly sandwiches. 1 month later at 13 months old I make him a pb&j sandwich, immediately while eating it he developed hives around his mouth. Several days later we see an allergist and do the skin prick testing. Sure enough M has an allergy to peanuts and strawberries. Because of his age and the likely hood of him also being allergic to tree nuts we decide it's just best to say he is allergic to tree nuts as well and keep him away.

From about 6 weeks old and on we noticed alot of belly issues with M. Constipation, reflux, insane crying. Of course he was labeled as "colic" but deep down I knew there was a bigger issue. When we saw the allergist I asked him to test M for a dairy allergy. Along with constipation, and reflux he had also developed eczema since putting him on cows milk. The allergist flat out refused to test him for me. I made another appt for him with a new allergist but it was 4 months away. I decided to switch him to Soy milk to see if that would confirm my dairy allergy suspicions. 5 minutes after drinking Soy milk he started incessantly vomiting. Yep that is a sure sign of an allergy. Eggs also were an issue for my little man. They didn't cause a flat out reaction, but they seemed to really bother his tummy.

January comes finally and we get M in to see the new allergist. I love love love her and she agreed with me to do a full allergy panel. She tested him for Dairy, Egg, Soy, Peanuts and Tree Nuts. The conclusion was that M did in fact have a dairy allergy. Soy and Egg came back negative but we decided it would be best to keep him away from them and to do an Open Challenge this summer in her office. Peanut also came back negative but since he was allergic she said it could just be a false negative and that we would treat him as if he is allergic until we could do an Open Peanut Challenge in the summer of 2011.

Whew that's alot. So for the last 5 months we have eliminated Dairy, Soy, Eggs, Strawberries, Peanuts and Tree Nuts. It was a very daunting and overwhelming undertaking at first, but seriously within a few weeks of all the eliminating I had a completely different child on my hands. He can poop again with it hurting, he can sleep for longer then 3 hours at a time. He no longers cries for hours on end. Finally having answers has truely been a blessing.


I really suck at this. LOL

This weekend the kids went to my step-mom and dad's for the weekend. They had a blast and M got his first haircut. 20 months old and his first haircut. After 3.5 inches being cut off, he looks like such a little man now. It's bittersweet but it had to be done. It's getting hot here and the poor thing had about 5-6 inches of hair on his head.

The countdown has begun for Jay. She only has 7 days until summer vacation starts and boy is she excited. Be back later for a bit more info.

Wednesday, April 28, 2010

Prayers please!

My friends 4.5 month old little boy was diagnosed with an agressive form of brain cancer yesterday. He is about to undergo surgery in a few hours. Please please please send prayers for baby Tristian and his family. I can not begin to imagine what his parents are feeling/thinking right now. :-(

Tuesday, April 27, 2010

A busy week

It's been a busy week for all of us. Although we did not leave the house all weekend and that was fabulous!!!!

Jay had GOTR practice last Tuesday and Thursday. Then on Friday she had her Jeff City field trip. The kids left at 645am and didn't get back to school til 3pm. She really enjoyed herself but I think the highlight of the trip was the Charter bus they rode in. She brought home her Progress report yesterday and as usual she is doing wonderful in school. Off the top of my head I'm going to say her lowest grade was Math at an 89%. We are very proud parents. :-)

M has been well M. Love that child. LOL Sleep again has been hit or miss. Although Sunday night was pure hell in the sleep department for all of us. OHHHHH I forgot the exciting M news. Our babysitter has been potty training another child there. Friday she heard M start to grunt and asked him if he wanted to sit on the potty. He runs to the bathroom so she helps him with his diaper and he sits on the potty and poops!!!! That's very exciting, especially since we haven't even begun to start potty training him yet. We were going to wait til the summer to do it. We're getting him a potty seat for home, and I think we're still gonna wait til the summer. But if he starts showing more interest we may go a little sooner.

Our ball python "Van Gogh" died on Friday. We've had him for about 7 years now. I want to clarify that I hate hate snakes with a passion, but the husband has always wanted one and his mommy wouldn't let him. Thanks for that MIL. So Van Gogh wasn't our snake so much as dh's snake. LOL He's a little upset about Van Gogh passing, but like a man already on the prowl for a new addition. I have put my foot down hard on this one, because I will not be living in a freaking Wild animal kingdom. He has talked about alligators, lizards, bigger snakes, and bearded dragon's. Seriously this man of mine has issues.

Tuesday, April 20, 2010

Autism Awareness Month

April is Autism Awareness Month and I felt like it would be important to make a seperate entry. Here are a few Autism facts

Autism now affects 1 in 110 children and 1 in 70 boys
Autism prevalence figures are growing
More children will be diagnosed with autism this year than with AIDS, diabetes & cancer combined
Autism is the fastest-growing serious developmental disability in the U.S.
Autism costs the nation over $35 billion per year, a figure expected to significantly increase in the next decade
Autism receives less than 5% of the research funding of many less prevalent childhood diseases
Boys are four times more likely than girls to have autism
There is no medical detection or cure for autism

Prevalence vs. Private Funding
Leukemia: Affects 1 in 1,200 / Funding: $277 million
Muscular Dystrophy: Affects 1 in 100,000 / Funding: $162 million
Pediatric AIDS: Affects 1 in 300 / Funding: $394 million
Juvenile Diabetes: Affects 1 in 500 / Funding: $156 million
Autism: Affects 1 in 110 / Funding: $79 million

I find it sad that Autism affects way more children then all those disease listed above yet funding is the least amount.

Ho Hum...

My baby boy is back from Ma-ma's. I love my mother, but lady when I give you instructions concerning his bedtime and naps PLEASE follow them. Marcus has always been a horrible sleeper. It's only been the last month after we decided to do some sleep training that things have changed for the better in the sleep department. M is VERY schedule orientated. Whenever you deviate from his schedule everything goes to hell in a handbasket.

So naturally ma-ma did not put him down for nap even remotely close to his normal naptime, which in turn resulted in him not going to bed til 3-4 hours AFTER his normal bedtime. Needless to say last night absolutely sucked! He had no nap yesterday and didn't go to bed til 7:30 last night which is around an hour after normal bedtime. 3:45am guess who is up? Yep he got up at 3:45 and would not go back to sleep. Oy today is going to be a long day.

Jaylin had girl scouts last night, and afterwards we played scrabble apple. I won btw, and she was not happy about it.

On another note things have been really crappy lately. Last week our only vehicle was stolen, and last night our TV went out. WTH the tv was only a little over a year old. Hopefully things start looking up for us soon.

Monday, April 19, 2010

Busy Weekend

Whew after the last 3 days it's almost a vacation day going back to work. Let me layout last weekend for ya.

Friday morning up at 5:30 as usual to get ready for work. Pa-pa picked M up from the babysitters so he could spend the weekend with Ma-ma, bubba, and Kay kay. 2:00 I leave work to finish getting things together for Jay's birthday party. 5:30 Jay's party! It was wonderful! She had 9 girlfriends show up and the kids all had a blast! We didn't get home from the party til 10pm man it was a long day!

No M but for some reason I'm up at 7am....oh yea I remember why Girl Scouts. Jay and I had April Showers with Girl Scouts saturday morning. April Showers (for those who don't know) is an annual event where one Saturday the girls put out bags, then the following Saturday we pick them up. It's usually household items, female products, baby items that all get donated to our local shelters. April Showers this year was ok, not our best year, but our troop did collect 1100 items for our shelters! All the items have to been sorted, counted, and bagged. This went on until about 2pm. After we were finished several of us went out to lunch with the girls. My girlfriend and fellow troop leader decided to leave our girls with her husband and hit up a thrift store close by. It's been a very stressful couple of weeks for me so some retail therapy (even at a thrift store) was very welcome. I ended up getting a couple outfits for both of the kids. Saturday night was wonderful for Jay and I. It's been a very long time since her and I were able to spend some quality alone time together.

Again M is at ma-ma's and I am up at 8am. Thanks bladder!!! The kids and I have started going to a new church with friends of ours. As an adult I have had a hard time finding a church I feel comfortable with. While M is too young to understand church, Jay has gone off and on her whole life and really enjoys going. So off to church her and I go with our friends. The service was great and empowering. We went back to our friends house after church. Jay and A played together while us adults enjoyed some coffee on the gazebo. Jay wanted to stay and play for a while so mom went home for some much needed house cleaning and laundry. My most favorite things to do.

It was an incredibly busy weekend! As much as I did not want to come to work today I'm glad I have a few hours where I'm not running around. ;-)

All about us!

I'm mom to Jaylin and Marcus! Two very active and wonderful children. Jaylin is my 10 year old "baby girl" and Marcus is my rambunctious 19 month old. I work a full time job while Jay is in school and Marcus goes to a wonderful in home babysitter. Jaylin is super involved in everything and always has been. I thought blogging about our life and how stressful it can be at times would be theraputic. I hope I don't bore you too much. :-)